This list of 13 indicators suggests you might be at the mercy of mental abuse.
1. If your partner isn’t happy, it’s always you to blame.
The first sign is that your spouse will seize every opportunity, to put the cause of any problems or mishaps on you. The most troubling part is that debating your innocence can worsen the tension.
2. Your spouse is angry when you don’t respond to messages or text messages.
If this happens, your relationship with your partner does not revolve around mutual support but more about ownership. Your partner expects that you are at his every need and request, and any lack of pay attention, whether intentionally or not, could have grave consequences.
3. Your spouse shares the secrets of your life and private moments with your friends.
We’re supposed to be able to share our most vulnerable times with our loved ones in hopes that they’ll be able to offer help or guidance.
4. Your accomplishments are made to seem unimportant.
This might be related to the first one. Everything you do is likely to be viewed as a failure by your spouse. Anything good that happens in your life could be met with humorous “congratulations” or even anger from your spouse.
5. Your partner frequently will accuse you of doing things you did not commit.
Being accused of a crime you didn’t commit is a source of anger But being blamed by someone supposed to love you is painful. Your pain does not matter to an abusive partner, and if they can feel more confident about themselves, your hurt is just incidental damage.
6.Your spouse often suggests that they are superior.
In a relationship, it is intended to put two individuals in a position of equal status. If one person falls and the other is expected to bear the weight and raise the other person together.
7. You always lose arguments between you and your companion.
Fighting in a relationship should not be something to be proud of. That is abusive; the person who is being abusive is likely to consider winning as the most important thing and will do everything that is in their power to be successful every time, regardless of whether you’re mistaken.
8. Sometimes, your partner uses snarky words and uses insulting comments.
This is a clear indication of mental abuse, leaving lasting scars. Some people may be off the mark, especially when emotionally charged. Still, when the slightest issue causes someone to use snarky names or offensive slurs, it is a habit, and if you’re being oppressed, you’re a victim.
9. They often make comments about you publicly or before family members.
It’s acceptable for our partners to speak to us about our shortcomings or behaviors they dislike since they can assist us in developing to become better. However, if harsh criticisms are expressed before other people to make you feel like they’re putting your down, those around you will be aware that you’re being victimized.
10. If you’re trying to communicate your feelings, the listener dismisses you for not being emotionally stable enough.
It doesn’t matter what emotion you’re trying to express – sadness, joy, or anger. If you display even the tiniest hint of emotion, a threatening spouse will say that you’re acting overly emotional and need to lower the feeling. It could be seen as a rude slap and indicates that you’re in a situation you should not be in.
11. Your partner will always bring the mistakes you’ve made during your life.
The saying goes that we should forgive and forget; however, it’s simpler said than done. It doesn’t mean that your spouse should make a point of mentioning your mistakes in every argument. If they do it, then maybe your mistakes caused harm to them more than they’re willing to admit, or perhaps they’ll go to extreme lengths to gain the advantage in the debate. You’re likely not to feel better when they use your mistakes to relive them.
12. They prevent you from visiting certain family members or friends.
Friendships and family are among the essential aspects of life. When your spouse prohibits you from going out with anyone without reason, This should be seen as a red signal. If they don’t have sufficient grounds for not letting you visit your siblings or an old high school buddy, they could feel insecure and untrustworthy.
13. Your partner has complete control over the financials.
In a marriage, you pool your resources to be as comfortable as possible. If one of the partners takes charge of the finances but isn’t held accountable for it, things may get out of hand.
14. Your partner’s personal and professional failings are always yours to blame.
It doesn’t matter what type of failures they have. The problem is always yours. Did they not get that promotion? This is probably because you didn’t believe in the person you supported. Did your friend not able to see her at the bar tonight? The reason is that you didn’t permit them to have a drink on a prior date. Whatever the reason you’re responsible for, it’s always your fault.
15. The person continuously checks on you to know where you are.
Of course, we need to be aware of where our loved ones are and where they are to make sure they are safe. But there’s a distinct distinction between being taken care of and being watched closely, and an abusive partner is likely to text and frequently call when you’re out to ensure that you’re not cheating on them.